What to do when your dating
No longer will each flaky and disappointing man derail you.
You’ll be able to bounce back and persevere instead of quitting. 🙂 I guess I figured that most guys would turn out to be flakes.
However, as you know, I can no more stop men from being men than I can stop the earth from turning.
As such, your lesson, as a woman, is not to wish men acted another way, but to understand how they DO act and prepare yourself emotionally.
I think all of the fantasizing becomes a problem because so many of us have turned to online dating when we’re already desperate for a relationship.
That can quickly lead to the hopes that the next guy will be “the one.” Great post, as usual!
It’s not because he’s an evil human being hell-bent on destroying your self-esteem. The reason your heart gets broken each time a new guy disappears is because you are SURPRISED when he disappears. Men disappearing is probably a semi-normal occurrence. And the reason it hurts so badly is simple: our expectations aren’t aligned with reality.
It’s not because you will not be able to survive without him. Then why act so shocked and devastated when outcome is so predictable? What I want to do is show you how to manage them – to protect yourself from continual heartbreak. Sandy was a 45-year-old client living in rural Wisconsin.
It’s the difference in feeling between losing a million dollars (devastating) vs.
the feeling of NOT winning the lottery at all when you had 4 numbers (mildly irritating). When the contract is signed, the ink is dry, and you know, without a doubt, that your dating prospect has become your BOYFRIEND.
I’ve had women tell me to chastise men to start following through more, to stop being so nice if they’re not ready for a relationship, to promise to call after having sex.
I hear you, and I agree that men could stand to do hundreds of things better to improve your relationships.
It’s that, if 9 times out of 10 (in real life), the special guy doesn’t turn out to be all that special, it may be smarter to reserve judgment for later.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating